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longstanding
[lɔˈŋstæˌndiŋ]
오래부터
다년간의
오래 지속되다
모든 언어들은 양면이 있어서
밝은 뜻으로 쓰이기도 하지만 그렇지 않은 경우도 있다.
오늘의 주제어 longstanding 도 여러 얼굴을 하고 있다.
Reciprocal filial piety is concerned with sincere affection toward one’s parent and a LONGSTANDING positive parent-child relationship.
양쪽의 효도는 자기 부모에 대한
진정성 있는 애정과 꾸준하게
지속되는 긍정적 부모 자녀의
관계에 관심을 두고 있다.
(Frontier, December 3, 2o21)
It's a LONGSTADING for Koreans to eat 떡국 on New Year's Day.
한국인들이 설날 떡국을 먹는
것은 지속되는 전통이다.
어두운 뜻의 longstanding..
No filial piety in a LONGSTANDING illness.
오랜 병에 효도 없다.
위의 문장은 개인적이지만
국가적이나 국제적인
부정적 longstanding도 있다.
The LONGSTANDING war of the Crusades began
in 1095 A.D.
and ended almost two hundred years later
in 1291 A.D.
장기적인 십자군 전쟁은
AD 1095년에 시작해서
거의 200년 뒤인
1291년에 끝났다.
나도 결혼 생활을 오래 한
편이지만, 그런 부부 사이에
약점이 있다면 서로 '싱싱함'이
느껴지지 않는다는 것이다.
그래서 노부부가 이런 상태이면
지루하지 않는 부부 관계를
유지할 수 있다.
All LONGSTANDING relationships need refreshing one another
from time to time.
모든 오래 지속되는 관계는
때때로 서로 상쾌함이
필요하다.
Who (or what) helps me solve a LONGSTANDING problem?
누가 (또는 무엇이) 내가
오래동안 가지고 있는
문제를 푸는데 도움이 될까?
California Eureka
Jennifer Gerlach LCSW
Beyond Mental Health
GRIEF
A Special Kind of Holiday Grief
1900 중반 up to 2000 and down
PERSONALITY
3 Overlooked Signs of a Personality Disorder
Consider whether the behavior is pervasive and longstanding.
Posted October 25, 2022
LONSTANDING practice
오랜 관행
Coping with estrangement this holiday season.
Posted December 10, 2023
Reviewed by Abigail Fagan
KEY POINTS
It was a long-standing tradition for them to camp in the mountains for a week during the summer.
Some long-standing problems are finally being corrected.
There has been a long-standing bullying relationship.
The use of herbal medicines is a long-standing tradition in Europe
both long-standing and deep-rooted.
have no filial piety in a LONGSTANDING illness
The longstanding war of the Crusades began in 1095 A.D.
and ended almost two hundred years later in 1291 A.D
Her elder son's wife was a long-standing irritant, like an ill-perforated toilet roll.
All long-standing relationships need refreshing from time to time.
Who (or what) helps me solve a long-standing problem?
It even seemed like North Korea was willing to make peace with its longstanding enemy, the United States
Estrangement is common.
The grief of estrangement is unique and often felt in a more isolated way than other forms of grief.
Being kind to yourself, creating new traditions, and reminiscing can help.
Estrangement is common. A 2015 study of college students found that 43% of participants were estranged from at least one family member (Conti, 2015).
As a therapist, I imagine this number would be even higher today.
Each situation is a little different. I've met individuals on both sides of estrangement involving elements of addiction, parental alienation, painful memories, abuse, divorce, unwillingness to accept a family member's sexual orientation, anger, longstanding conflict, mental illness, and others.
As well, the relationships before the estrangement vary wildly from consistently combative to mostly positive to ones that seem to have never existed. Sometimes someone is not able to identify the exact reason for the estrangement and I've met more than one person estranged from their entire family.
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longstanding (adj.)
also long-standing, 1814, from earlier noun (c. 1600), from long (adj.) + standing (n.).
also from 1814
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long (adj.)
Old English lang "having a great linear extent, that extends considerably from end to end; tall; lasting," from Proto-Germanic *langa- (source also of Old Frisian and Old Saxon lang, Old High German and German lang, Old Norse langr, Middle Dutch lanc, Dutch lang, Gothic laggs "long").
The Germanic words perhaps are from PIE *dlonghos- (source also of Latin longus "long, extended; further; of long duration; distant, remote," Old Persian darga-, Persian dirang, Sanskrit dirghah "long"), from root *del- (1) "long" (source also of Greek dolikhos "long," endelekhes "perpetual"). Latin longus (source of prolong, elongate, longitude, etc.) thus is probably cognate with, but not the source of, the Germanic words. The word illustrates the Old English tendency for short "a" to become short "o" before -n- (also retained in bond/band and West Midlands dialectal lond from land and hond from hand).
Also in Old English in reference to time, "drawn out in duration," with overtones of "serious." The old sense of "tall" now appears to be dialectal only, or obsolete. For long "during a long time" is from c. 1300. To be long on something, "have a lot" of it, is from 1900, American English slang. A long vowel (c. 1000) originally was pronounced for an extended time. Mathematical long division is from 1808. Sporting long ball is from 1744, originally in cricket. Long jump as a sporting event is attested from 1864. A long face, one drawn downward in expression of sadness or solemnity, is from 1786. Long in the tooth (1841 of persons) is from horses showing age by recession of gums (but not in this sense until 1870). Long knives, name Native Americans gave to white settlers (originally in Virginia/Kentucky) is from 1774, perhaps a reference to their swords. Long time no see, supposedly imitative of American Indian speech, is first recorded 1919 as Chinese English.
standing (n.)
mid-13c., stonding, "action or fact of standing upright," in any sense, verbal noun from stand (v.). By late 14c. as "base or foundation," also "an office, position," also "the action of stopping;" by c. 1400 as "a position; act of remaining in place."
In the sense of "rank, status, relative position" it is recorded by 1570s. Also from 1570s as "length of service, appearance, etc." The sense of "state of having existed for some time" is by 1650s. The legal sense is recorded by 1924. The sports sense is from 1881.
To be in good standing is from 1789. Standing room "space sufficient (only) for standing" is from 1788, originally in reference to theaters. SRO for "standing room only" is attested by 1890.
A young gentleman attempting to get into Drury-lane play-house, found there was such a croud of people that there was no room. Just without the door, a damsel of the town accosted him with 'can't you get in, sir?' to which he replied in the negative. 'If you'll go along with me, resumed she you may get in very easily, for I can furnish you with very good standing room.' ["The Banquet of Wit, or A Feast for the Polite World," London, 1790]
Regardless of whether one has chosen the estrangement or not, there is often a common theme: pain.
Most kinds of grief are shared. Often it is in sharing memories and support that we heal. In cases of estrangement, often the grief is felt alone. The person may miss their family member(s) deeply (even if they do not feel comfortable with them in their life at this time). They may grieve them repeatedly, hoping for reconnection and sometimes gradually letting go of that hope. Sometimes reconciliation happens; other times it doesn't.
Holidays can be particularly rough on someone experiencing estrangement. When we meet for family gatherings after a death and can express the shared missing of the person, in estrangement often family members feel ashamed, and unable to discuss it. When a person is not invited to the family gathering or when the one someone is estranged from still interacts with other family members this can be especially painful.
What follows are five strategies for getting through these days:
1. Be Kind to Yourself
If you need to slow down during this time, that's okay. The Christmas specials on TV may make you think that this is a magical time that should be happy for everyone. That's just not the case. Allow yourself to feel.
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2. It's OK to Remember
If you have memories of happy holidays with the person (people) you are estranged from, it's okay to remember those. Bringing out the family photo album can sometimes hurt. Still, those memories matter. If you don't have any positive memories with the person you are estranged from, you may have other positive holiday memories. Those count too.
3. Wishes Do Not Need to Be Shared
You might not be able to wish your loved one a happy holiday. Still, you may have many well wishes for your loved one. You may write these in a journal or think of them as you light a candle. Wishing do not need to be shared to be valid
4. Look for What You Can Still Enjoy
THE BASICS
Understanding Grief
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You might be going back and forth on that invitation your friend gave you to join their family gathering while you feel unwelcome on your own. Whether or not you accept it is your choice, of course. Still, making new memories and spending time with people you are close to may still bring a smile to your face.
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5. Begin a New Tradition
Changes can encourage new traditions. You might decide to walk through a light display you never explored, to attend a movie, or to order special food. Consider what you might be up for.